Finding calm in a chaotic world
OK, I admit it - I'm a bit of a stresshead. I find it so hard to just chill and remove myself from all of life's ups and downs and really get swept up in everything. I'm fairly sensitive to stress, hate just doing nothing and have a bad habit of over-analysing everything.
But there comes a point when I'm throwing a hissy fit about the fact that we're out of potatoes and I don't have time to go out and buy more or I'm having one of my wardrobe meltdowns (anyone else have drawers fit to burst but nothing to wear?) or I'm worried about work stuff that I really just need to sit the eff down, let it go and relax. I'm not going to tell you exactly how to do that because I've given plenty of helpful tips in the past here and here. I'm actually just gonna ramble on a bit and probably not even proofread because I need these thoughts to be out of my head and into the world, okay? Good.
Like many other people my age (dare I say millennials? ugh, buzzword alert) we started university or entered the working world during the global financial crisis - we've never known a world where getting on in life was considered fairly straightforward. We've always been told that the glass is half empty, that you'll have to grind your life away just to make ends meat and that's if you're lucky enough to even land a half-decent job relevant to your interests, that we'll never afford to be homeowners and our pensions won't be big enough and we shouldn't be going on holidays because we should be saving and oh, don't forget to actually put your phone down and have real life interactions from time to time and blah blah blah. The result is a constant conflict between the scaremongering headlines we're still being fed about our prospects and the way we're living our lives and endless, endless worry.
I'm beginning to feel like I spend so much time fussing, worrying and being downright irritable that life is properly passing me by. If I stopped wasting time on the stressors in my life I'd probably be in a better mindset to put together a solution and conquer these things, or maybe I'd just straight up forget about my worries and my strife. Maybe I actually just need to take some advice from a talking bear...
I'm happy to see that there's been a big shift in the last year or so towards encouraging people to focus on wellbeing and doing what they love. Whether you find your calm through exercise, meditation, colouring books or simply some good old-fashioned Netflix and chill (no I don't mean it in that way although maybe you could do that too), it seems like being a little bit selfish and shutting the world away is becoming more and more acceptable. More and more people are giving up on the life they've been told to lead - they're travelling the world, starting charities, going offline, becoming entrepreneurs and going back to school all in the name of finding inner peace.
Our generation is starting to get a reputation for buying experiences, not things - for wanting to live life in the now rather than agonise over the future. Maybe my seventy-year-old self will be a bit peeved that I didn't manage to save every single penny into a pension but I'm damn sure she'll be OK with the fact that I refused to let the world around me swallow me up.